Man-ifest Destiny

Joey,

I dated a girl for about 2 years. After awhile I fell out of the relationship and broke it off with her. It was a little messy. We stopped speaking for a few months and I started realizing what I had given away. So I called and let her know how I felt and knew I would have to work on it. She was hesitant at first then receptive since she never wanted the relationship to end in the first place. So we were getting back into things sex and the whole 9, a few weeks pass and things are going smoothly. Her birthday comes we spend the night together with friends have some great sex. She drops me off the next morning I call her in the afternoon to wish her a good evening as she was returning to school and a guy picks up and tells me Im pathetic and stop talking to his girl. I told him she blew me last night so enjoy the taste of my dick. Needless to say I didn't want anything to do with her and she didnt acknowledge anything for a week. She finally gets back to me apologizes 1 million times wants me back everything. I told her I was moving West from the East Coast, which her deceit helped me to decide, she cries, etc. I move West, she finds a job and follows a few months later, and wants to work things out. Does she deserve the chance? She broke my heart though.

Blumpkin


Dear Blumpkin,

I usually steer away from general yet heavy questions, but I've decided to give your general question a general answer. The reason for this is that, I simply don't know enough details about the type of love you had with this women and the amount of worth this love has to you. What I will do, is give you the tools to view the situation clearly.

Many times, when faced with a dilemma like this, the best thing to do is to remove your emotions and think logically (as us men do best), and to strip the situation down without letting your heart overwhelm your smarts.

If you do look at the situation in this way, you basically have two simple options: give her another chance (because mistakes aside, you want her and she wants you) or open yourself up to the infinite world of women around you. Here is the major dilemma....

If you do decide to pass off this woman who broke your heart, you may not be able to get her back. If you never get her back, you may wonder what could have been for a long while. Maybe give her another chance, as she gave you after the messy break up. The only thing it would hurt is your pride, and who knows, she may tend to your broken heart the second time around.
It sounds to me that something special was had. You’ve already made the “mistake” of leaving her once. If it doesn't work out, then on to the next lover. Life is short, look at your options as they are and don't ruminate too much. Plus, it could be destiny… just kidding (or am I?).
Love,

Joey